Complete Guide for Foreigners Attending a Japanese Wedding

Complete Guide for Foreigners Attending a Japanese Wedding


Attending a Japanese wedding for the first time can be exciting but also a little overwhelming. This guide covers everything you need to know—from money gifts and dress codes to etiquette and insider tips—based on my personal experiences.

Tip: Check our Other Japan Lifestyle Guides for more useful information about living in Japan as a foreigner.

1️⃣ Money Gift (Goshūgi 💴)

In Japan, giving cash as a wedding gift (goshūgi) is the standard practice. Always place it in a shūgi-bukuro (祝儀袋)envelope, available at convenience stores, stationery shops, or online.

 Recommended Amount

  • Friends or colleagues: ¥30,000

  • Close family: ¥50,000 or more

    Important Tips

  • Avoid “even numbers” like ¥40,000, which symbolize separation.

  • Always use new bills, avoiding old or wrinkled ones.

  • Write your name on the envelope. If kanji is difficult, Roman letters are acceptable.

  • Learn more about Japanese money gift etiquette for weddings.

 2️⃣ Dress Code (👔👗)

Attire is important at Japanese weddings. Most weddings are formal and well-organized, so proper clothing is essential.

For Men

  • Dark suit (black or navy)

  • White dress shirt

  • Conservative tie

For Women

  • Formal dress or suit

  • Modest and elegant colors

  • Kimono is acceptable; choose subdued patterns

Colors and Styles to Avoid

  • White: Reserved for the bride

  • Bright red or flashy colors: Too attention-grabbing

  • Casual clothing: Jeans, T-shirts, or casual shoes are not suitable

Tip: For more details, see our Japanese wedding fashion guide.

 3️⃣ Etiquette and Red Flags (🚩)

Basic Etiquette

  • Arrive on time, preferably 10 minutes early

  • Give your cash gift at the reception desk when entering

  • Take photos only when permitted

  • Short congratulatory message: “Congratulations on your wedding!” (Gokekkon omedetō gozaimasu)

Things to Avoid

  • Opening your cash gift in front of the couple

  • Giving overly expensive or cumbersome gifts

  • Leaving your seat or moving during the ceremony without permission

Learn more about wedding etiquette in Japan.

4️⃣ Bonus Tips (🌸)

  • Return Gifts (Hikidemono): Guests usually receive a small gift from the couple.

  • Bowing: Slight bows when greeting show respect.

  • Dining Etiquette: Proper chopstick usage and table manners matter.

  • English Support: Some venues may provide English guides or interpreters—check in advance.

See our Full Guide to Japanese Table Manners for more tips.

 5️⃣ Summary

Japanese weddings are formal and structured, but following these basic rules ensures you enjoy the ceremony and leave a good impression:

  • Money gift: Correct amount in a shūgi-bukuro, new bills

  • Dress code: Formal and modest attire

  • Timing & etiquette: Arrive early, follow the ceremony flow, greet politely

  • Bonus tips: Observe table manners, accept return gifts graciously, bow appropriately

By paying attention to these details, you can confidently participate in a Japanese wedding. Even small gestures—like being punctual or using proper etiquette—make a positive impression on the couple and other guests.

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